5 things every “Back-to-Schooler” should know!

GRRR!  It’s that time already! Some of us are scrambling for back to school items..hitting the Target Dollar Spot at pivotal restocking times to feed our stationery obsession.   Some of us have already made that transition from summer to school, right now as we speak.  Eventually as summer fades, fall will enter and kid free days will be endless…well until fall break!?!  But as our back-to-schoolers get hyped about going back, there’s 5 simple things they gotta know-

1.-School’s not that serious! Wait mom……before you stone me, deep breaths! Yeah its important, but not that serious. Students-don’t get overwhelmed with all the assignments, projects, gossip, trends, blah, blah, blah.  Take it in small chunks, plan your days, be consistent, and expect to be successful.  Trust me, I’m a teacher, it works.

2.-Having a boyfriend or girlfriend during the school year is a great idea! Again parents hear me out!  Positive relationships during our formative years lay the ground work for our future.  Going “steady” at the appropriate age and time can add value and provide avenues for personal growth.  Students-we are giving you an opportunity to make healthy decisions during this process…if we see that you’re not…you’re done!

3.-Social Media A Must!-If any parents are still listening….allow your student to snap chat, instagram, periscope, face-time. etc.  We live in a technology driven society and not being tech savvy now-a-days is a disservice.  But parents you must monitor the usage and set ground rules and cut off times for social media.  In my house, the dinner table is a tech-free zone, and all devices are off, shut down, and in a central location by 8pm.  Parents be firm, consistent, and let your student know that if they violate the terms……they loose the device.

4.-Be Sure to Study Last Minute-I know I’ve lost all of you on this one!  But studys show that students who study right before bed time and the morning of the test do better!  So cram on!  Well….don’t try to cram the entire chapter into one night of studying!  That never works!

5.-Always Pray-Hey I know school life can be difficult and uninspiring- thats all the more reason to speak to God about it.  He knows everything about you and can help in all situations, if you pray and invite him into your life, He will show up on your behalf.  With out a doubt…I promise He’ll be there.

So Happy Back to School Yall!

❤ bbprep

“Mommy Don’t Be Angry”

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She stood on her little stool in the bathroom, pieces of her curly hair bouncing across her forehead as she brushed her teeth. She paused and looked at me with with an earnest expression that comes from a state of deep contemplation. She opened her mouth and the conversation went as follows:

Alex: Mommy, why aren’t you my friend anymore?

Me: Where in the world did you get that idea from? I’m your mom, the first friend you’ve ever known. I love you very much.

Alex: Well, because you get angry at me. Yesterday you got angry at me. You can’t get angry at daddy, me, or Lily Girl. Friends are nice to each other. You have to be nice to us.

Mommy: We all get angry sometimes honey. That doesn’t mean we don’t love each other. Sometimes mama gets frustrated because you’re not a very good listener. But I love you very much OK?

Alex: Ok mama. But don’t get angry with me today. Just be kind OK?

Me: Ok, my love. I will do my best.

So that happened this week. Sure I can view it as my dear old threenager lecturing me because she didn’t get her way about something, and to a certain extent that’s true. But that ‘yesterday’s anger’ she referred to was very real. The night before this heart-to-heart took place, I distinctly remember getting so upset that I had clenched fists and angry eyes. I was furious and had to remove myself from the room just to keep it together.

The sad part is I don’t remember what caused this intense feeling to bubble up inside me. Unfortunately I feel as though it’s happened quite a bit lately as my daughter has tested my patience and I have responded extremely poorly. It hurts my heart to know that my smart, aware, and observant little girl absorbs such negativity from her own mother.

One of my favorite artist/authors is Ruth Chou Simons of http://gracelaced.com/ . She coined the Instagram hashtag #motherhoodissanctifying, and this was certainly one of those moments.

Why do I have so little patience towards those closest to me? Why do I have so little patience for my three-year-old child?! Is something really wrong with me?!

I recently shared these thoughts with a dear friend of mine, and bared my soul about the guilt I felt. I told her that I prayed and prayed, and sincerely tried my best to be a more patient parent.  I was downtrodden and discouraged because it seemed like progress was not being made at all, and I didn’t want this despicable side of me to be all my children would see. This individual is a wonderful and patient mama in my eyes, and the kind of woman and wife that I only strive to be like one day. So it certainly surprised me when she shared a few stories of having outbursts when her children were younger or losing her temper more times then she cared to admit.

During our talk she reminded me that I am seeing her now, and not the person she was then. She also reminded me that just because God doesn’t seem to answer a prayer immediately, doesn’t mean that we have been overlooked. “Patience is cultivated,” she said. “Patience is cultivated.”

       “But let patience have its perfect work, that you may be perfect and complete, lacking       

         nothing.”James 1:4 NKJV

These wise words from my friend preceded the conversation I had with my child by some weeks, so clearly I still have a long ways to go in the patience department! However, I am realizing more and more how important it is for me to lean on God and not my own understanding. I know I want there to be an immediate change, but sometimes there is a process to things that we don’t always want to face or admit.

I know there are going to be plenty more days where I feel like I screwed everything up as a mom, but then there’s grace.

Holy, freely-given, and gladly received grace. Grace I often forget to extend to myself, but it’s the same grace that I see my child give me, even when mama is very, very, very mad.

In the trenches? Back up against the wall? Tears streaming down your face? Take a deep breath mama bear and repeat after me: patience is cultivated!!

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BE BLESSED!!!

Patricia A. Taylor is the proud wife of an amazing godly man, and mama to two precious girls. After having her first child she realized that motherhood, like life, is a journey best shared with others! Her heart’s desire is to cultivate a down-to-earth and faith-filled space where real experiences are shared, and sincere encouragement is given. Visit www.lifeofaministermom.com and join her on this faith-filled adventure!

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Photo Challenge! Say Cheese……..

Ok Mom! Let’s be real…back to school season is OUR holiday.

Share how you get your kiddos ready, prepared, and out the door, by posting photos each day, on FACEBOOK, INSTAGRAM or BLOG!

AUGUST BACK 2 SCHOOL PHOTO CHALLENGE, beginning August 1st
Hosted by @bbprep

POST YOUR PHOTOS UNDER #B2SHoliday
01 End of Summer Hang-out
02 Happy Friendship Day
03 New School Year Bucket List/Goals (parent and/or student)
04 DIY Back To School Project
05 Student Supplies List
06 Back To School Shopping Selfie
07 What Are You Doing Now? Kid FREE Day!
08 My Favorite Teacher is….Top 5 qualities
09 Book Lover’s Day….upcoming reading list/fav books
10 Planner/Agenda Snapshot
11 B2S Must Have..Technology
12 My Favorite Subject….besides RECESS
13 Organization..Tricks, Tools, & Trends
14 Post a written note to your student of support/well wishes for the new year
15 B2S Must Have…..Jeans
16 Study Area/ Desk Snapshot
17 B2S Must Haves…..pens/pencils
18 Locker Décor
19 Inspiration
20 Throwback Thursday-Retro Back to School Pic
21 B2S Must Haves…..Tanks & T’s
22 School Spirit…team/sports/colors
23 Afterschool Hang-out
24 What’s In Your Bag? School Essentials
25 B2S Must Haves….Shoes/Sneakers
26 What’s In Your Lunch Box?
27 Night Before 1st Day Routine/Prep
28 First Day Breakfast
29 OOTD-1st Day of School
30 School Schedule
31 Celebration!
**BONUS-1ST DAY SELFIE**