Characters of Change

Today as I sat and felt the cool crisp North Carolina air…..I realized the seasons ARE changing.  Although, here in Carolina, it’s hard to determine our seasons, with 75 degree weather in December and 40 degree weather in May, it can be quite confusing.  But feeling the morning breeze across my face, I realized that change is coming.  Sometimes in life, change comes as expected, as clockwork, or maybe even as a surprise….its arrival is the only certainty.  We’d do well to be prepared and ready as no one can accurately predict its path.  In the coming days as the green view turns into hues of brown, red, orange or yellow, take deep breaths, allow the cool air to wash over you, and determine what role you will play in this change.

Stay well my friends-

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Eccelesiastes 3:1-8

A Time for Everything

1For everything there is a season, and a time for every matter under heaven:

2a time to be born, and a time to die;
a time to plant, and a time to pluck up what is planted;
3a time to kill, and a time to heal;
a time to break down, and a time to build up;
4a time to weep, and a time to laugh;
a time to mourn, and a time to dance;
5a time to cast away stones, and a time to gather stones together;
a time to embrace, and a time to refrain from embracing;
6a time to seek, and a time to lose;
a time to keep, and a time to cast away;
7a time to tear, and a time to sew;
a time to keep silence, and a time to speak;
8a time to love, and a time to hate;
a time for war, and a time for peace

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Desperate Housewife

  • 6am Rise and Shine
  • Prayer
  • Review Planner
  • Morning Routine(Husband, Kids, etc)
  • Work from Home
  • Errands/Cook Dinner/Clean
  • Relax with the Family
  • Bedtime

Does any of that look familiar?  Taking a glimpse at my day doesn’t look much different from any other wife/mother in the world!  No matter what race, nationality, geographic location, or socioeconomic status, we have a ” plan” for our day.  And the running theme……never taking time for yourself!  I know for me, its hard penciling myself in.  Taking care of my husband, children, and the household always seems to rise to the top, while my needs lag in the distance.  Having a need to run the household like Bree Van de Kamp…perfect and perky, all while wearing pearls is a goal most of us try to acheive.

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Bree Van de Kamp photo credit: ABC Series-Desperate Housewives

But being perfect in God’s eyes is what I now strive for.  I had become desperate for alone time, for me time, for personal time…just to hear my own thoughts, to seek God for MY benefit, to see what’s in store for me.  Desperation is a barren place, where most of us don’t wanna be.  The definition alone-“feeling, showing, or involving a sense of hopelessness”, is like a dirty secret we dare not utter, but that’s where I was. One thing I’ve learned, if I suck, it’s pretty much down hill for the family!  So being desperate led me to seek after God more and more.  I became deserate for him……a desperate housewife.

Psalm 142:25-7 (NIV)

I cry to you, Lord;
    I say, “You are my refuge,
    my portion in the land of the living.”

Listen to my cry,
    for I am in desperate need;
rescue me from those who pursue me,
    for they are too strong for me.
Set me free from my prison,
    that I may praise your name.
Then the righteous will gather about me
    because of your goodness to me.

Desperately seeking Him-

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Is working from home really working from home?!

Heck yeah!  Let’s just get that out-of-the-way.  For all of you who think that working from home isn’t really “working”…sorry, it is!  Working from home is a blessing for some and not so much for others.  I’ve been blessed to work from home for the past 6 years and it was an adjustment, since I’m a chatty chatster who takes pleasure in chatting it up with the coworker-homies.  But working from the confines of your home is just as much a REAL JOB as it is working offsite.  The key to working from home is planning, balance, boundaries, and patience.

Planning-is my fav!  Planning for me is artwork in a binder.  I didn’t see myself as artsy or crafty until I began keeping a lifeplanner to organize.  Planning is key if you want to be a home based success.  Pen to pad lists have been proven to increase memory and save a frazzled mom a time or two!  (All in favor say Aye!)  Whether spiral or binder form, get a planner, write your crap down, and get organized.

Balance-BIG SIGH!  There really isn’t a magic bullet for this one, it’s just something we’ve got to achieve. When we’re out of balance it’s unhealthy for us and the people around us.  It causes stress, burn-out, anger, sadness, depression….it sux.  So balance comes from a place of realistically looking at your life, one chunk at a time, getting things done, in small batches, day by day, piece by piece.  Work-Life balance has to be implemented if you work from home.  Since home IS the workplace, lines are easily blurred if there is no balance.  Having a specific area to work in, a specific time to report to, and a specific schedule to adhere to, helps.

Boundaries-Kinda goes along with balance.  But set clear concise boundaries for yourself and for your family to follow.  If your “work” hours are from 7am-3pm Monday-Friday with a 30 minute break, post it so that expectation can be set.  Be sure that you adhere to those set boundaries as much as possible,.  If you don’t take it seriously…others won’t either.  Finally never put work before the family.  If you have a good daily plan or schedule, work hard to complete your tasks, and save the rest for another day.  Never work late just to clear you list….remember family first!

Patience-Be ginger with yourself.  I didn’t become a work from home genius in one day!  It took me about 2 years to get myself and the family acclimated to what my goals and expectations.  Over the years, these have changed, so I’ve had to renew the process several times.  Six years later, I think we have a rhythm that works well.  But I had to be patient with the process, and to pray when I was overwhelmed.

So let’s recap-working from home is most definitely work.  It takes planning, balance, boundaries, patience…….

and PRAYER-

Dear God-bless all of us who are fortunate enough to work from home.  Even if it’s not a fortunate situation, we count it all joy in your name.  Help us to keep you first in all that we do, to be good stewards of our time and energies, to have healthy work-life balance, to keep clear boundaries, and to have patience when we do all we know to do and things still seem to go wrong.  We depend on your love for guidance, comfort, and peace.  Thank for all things!  In the name of Jesus we pray-Amen

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